Mastering Your Words and Letting Go (Part 2 of The Four Agreements Series)
So, You’ve Committed, Let’s Go!
So, you’ve decided to commit to being impeccable with your word. Bold move. It sounds easy enough — just don’t trash-talk yourself or others, right? Until you start catching how often you lob words like they’re hand grenades — at yourself, at others, at the world. News flash: those words you toss around so casually are busy shaping the world you live in, turning your internal dialogue into a minefield.
But here’s the thing: once you take this commitment seriously, your whole world starts to shift. Things get a little lighter, problems start untangling themselves, and you finally stop tripping over the clutter in your own head. Then — bam! — comes the second agreement: don’t take anything personally. Whoa. That sounds peaceful, right? But don’t kid yourself — this one’s tricky because it only works if you’ve got the first agreement down. You can’t go zen on life until you’ve stopped using your words as weapons.
Here’s the kicker, though: once you stop taking things personally, life gets weirdly quiet. Peaceful even. Suddenly, all that noise — the snide comments, the critiques, the opinions — becomes background static. You stop letting everyone’s drama set up camp in your brain. And that’s when things really get fun.
Here is a fun reality you might run into, you are impeccable with your word, check! You are a zen master at not taking things personal when your sleep tank is full, and now you rock impeccability and humility like a rockstar! AND, the same metaphorical old bad music plays, this is either time for an exasperated sigh, or it can be a profound victory because you have first hand discovered a true NPC (Non-Playable Character) live and in person. You can’t fix stupid or anyone for that matter doesn’t want to be fixed, don’t try, just lead your life and rest easy for as soon as they get curious they can make the leap too!
You Say What You Mean In The Most Effective Way, Impeccably!
Part 1: The Superpower of Being Impeccable with Your Word
Let’s get one thing straight: being impeccable with your word isn’t about becoming some sunshine-and-rainbows robot that only spits out Hallmark card slogans. Nope. It’s about being real, speaking truth, but doing it in a way that doesn’t harm. Because words, my friend, are powerful little beasts. And if you’re not careful, they’ll bite you. Hard.
Every time you say, “I’m such an idiot” “I Hate This!” or “I’ll never figure this out,” you’re planting nasty little seeds in your brain. You may think it’s no big deal, but trust me, those seeds grow into jungles of self-doubt faster than you can say “weed whacker.” Before you know it, you’re lost in a mental rainforest of negativity, hacking away at your own self-esteem.
Here’s the deal: impeccability isn’t about perfection — it’s about intention. It’s about realizing that your words aren’t just sounds — they’re spells. You’re either cursing yourself or blessing yourself with every sentence that leaves your lips.
Take driving. You’re minding your own business, following the rules, cruising along, and then — HONK! — someone behind you loses their mind. Now, if you’ve been impeccable with your driving (you know, not cutting anyone off or playing Mario Kart on the highway), that honk? Not your problem. That’s their bad day, not yours. When you stick to being impeccable, you don’t have to defend yourself. Life suddenly becomes way simpler. You’re not constantly looking over your shoulder, wondering if you’ve offended the universe.
Responding To Everything Like a Good Game of Tennis!
Part 2: Don’t Take Anything Personally — Because It’s Not About You
Alright, now let’s talk about the second agreement: don’t take anything personally. Easier said than done, right? But here’s the thing — it’s only hard if you let it be. The secret? No one’s words can hurt you unless, on some level, you believe them. Think about that.
Every insult, every offhand comment — it’s like someone tossing a little seed your way. If you catch it, plant it, and water it with your own insecurity, it grows. But if you just let that seed bounce off you and roll into the gutter where it belongs, you’re free. No gardening required.
This agreement is all about turning down the volume on other people’s noise. And let’s be honest — most of the noise isn’t even about you. When someone criticizes or lashes out, it’s usually a reflection of their mess, not yours. But here’s where impeccability comes in. If you’ve been impeccable with your words and actions, why would you take their garbage personally? You’ve already done your best. The rest is just static.
Imagine this: you’re in a conversation, someone criticizes your work, and instead of spiraling into defensive mode, you pause. You know you’ve been impeccable, so their opinion? That’s on them. It’s just information, not an attack. The moment you stop taking things personally, you’ve unplugged yourself from everyone else’s chaos. Suddenly, life isn’t about reacting — it’s about choosing how you want to respond.
Fatigue Opens The Door For Taking Things Personal, Now You Have An Early Warning Sign!
Part 3: Fatigue is the Enemy of Impeccability (and Sanity)
Here’s the part no one likes to admit: being impeccable and not taking things personally requires energy. Yep, this stuff is mentally exhausting, especially when you’re running on fumes. Fatigue? That’s the backdoor entrance for all your bad habits. The moment you get tired, stressed, or bored, you’re just begging to start taking everything personally and using your words like daggers.
Let me give you a real-world example: about 15 years ago, I thought I was invincible. I’d stay up until 1 AM, get up at 5:30, throw myself into the day like a superhero running on fumes. By the weekend, I was practically in a coma, sleeping for 15 hours just to pay off my sleep debt. And guess what? When I was tired, my words turned into knives, and I took everything personally — because I just didn’t have the energy to care about being impeccable or calm.
So, here’s the real hack: if you want to master these agreements, get some real sleep. We live in a society that worships busy. We’ve got hustle culture telling us that being tired is a badge of honor. But guess what? Being perpetually tired just makes you reactive and cranky. And that, my friend, is the fast track to breaking both agreements in record time.
They Never Stop Painting The Golden Gate Bridge, This is a Perpetual Life Practice!
Conclusion: The Never-Ending Bridge
Practicing these agreements isn’t a “one and done” kind of thing. It’s more like painting the Golden Gate Bridge — by the time you finish one coat, it’s time to start all over again. And that’s okay. This isn’t about perfection, it’s about persistence. Every time you fall off the impeccability wagon, you get back on. Every time you take something personally, you recognize it, let it go, and move on. Building healthy habits one intention at a time.
Start small, it all adds up! Pick one safe relationship to practice this on. Be relentless in being impeccable with your word. Then, when that feels solid, focus on not taking things personally. Slowly, these agreements will seep into other parts of your life. It’s like a snowball effect, except instead of freezing your butt off, you’re warming up to a life with a lot less noise and a lot more peace.
And here’s the wild part — once you’ve experienced this freedom, once you’ve felt what it’s like to live without all that unnecessary resistance, you’ll wonder how you ever lived any other way. It’s like taking the red pill in The Matrix — once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
So, what are you waiting for? Go out there and start being impeccable with your word. And while you’re at it, stop taking everything so damn personally. You’ve got better things to do with your mental space. Like, I don’t know… living your best life?
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